In this weeks's parasha, The tribes of Reuben and Gad (later joined by half of the tribe of Manasseh) ask Moshe if they can stay in the land east of the Jordan River and not settle in the promised land of Israel. They preferred the East Jordan since the land was fertile pastureland for their cattle. Moshe is initially upset, but eventually makes a compromise with them. They can stay east of the Jordan on the condition that they do not abandon their brethren in their conquest of Israel and that they lead them in the battle.
Moshe proves again to be a leader who is sensitive to the needs of his people while maintaining his position among them.
This event has got me thinking about all the compromising and deal making that goes on in our home. We are definitely not the "because I said so household" nor are we the "do whatever you want family."
Finding the right balance in between those extremes is often the struggle. Giving your children a sense of control over their lives while also steering them correctly is a tricky thing.
Seems Moshe is setting the example for us. Only after Reuben, Gad, and half of Manasseh fulfill their responsibility to the greater family of Israel, can their individual needs be met. Only after my daughter helps her family space stay neat by putting away her toys, can she have the free time to play in the kiddie pool.
I still struggle with the all the compromising that goes on here. At times, wondering if we make too many concessions and other times regretting not making enough.